So I wash my hands not in the proverbial sense, which is to say that I am not responsible for any of this. On the contrary, I wash my hands because if I take care of myself best I can, I take care of everyone else, too. And I will remind you to take care of yourself, because only you can do it for yourself as well and because my life is literally dependent on you being alive and healthy. And only if we are both healthy can we commune and share our space with one another again.
Most of us have learned to “set our intentions” usually at the beginning of a year, or before a big project or an activity like a yoga practice or a community reach-out or in helping out a friend. But in reality, we wish to pursue our individual paths to our ideal resolutions more than once a year and much more often than we care to think of. We intend for every single thing to happen, even if it is only milliseconds before we make the actual move for them.
We all too often don’t give ourselves the chance to make decisions for ourselves and see the kind of environment we truly want to create. We get carried away by others’ voices, society, status quo, a bottomless arena of suggestions and reactions from loved ones and strangers on the news feeds. What do we truly want? And if we decide to continue to listen to others, what if they are not sure either? Then we are all in a vicious cycle of following roads that nobody wants to go to, reroutes that nobody made the actual decision to take.
What a year. I think it’s so exciting – people have been learning, making bad judgements, learning to make better ones, moving on, falling and reviewing notes they have left behind, pushing forward, growing. Chaos must ensue for any kind of order to be desired. Mistakes are essential to make the better choices next. DirtRead moreRead more
So THIS is what it means to be a woman.
In contrast, if I see myself primarily in terms of myself as a fellow human, I will then have more than seven billion people who I can feel deep connection with. And this is wonderful, isn’t it? What do you need to fear or worry about when you have seven billion other people who are with you?
“I had an absolute interest in everything I was learning and I was an eager student. But I’d say I was definitely at a stage of sheer dread over future boredom. Yes, I wanted peace of mind. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to learn from the masters. I wanted to be a master of my self. But did I want to let go of desire? Of excitement? Of passion? Of going after something with the entirety of my being? Of ecstasy? Also, to not care anymore. I knew my capacity to care too much had always caused me to be unnecessarily hurt and exposed. But did I want to risk all feeling I had already invested in the world around me? I worked hard for these feelings. And all of the above were qualities I had always considered myself to be positively built in with. They were assets. If not for how I care for my family and friends and my adventurous spirit and enthusiasm for life, what kind of mould should I turn into? I don’t want to be a total dud in the world.”
“Why are we sourcing our happiness, or even our pain and our fears, from outside forces – from other people, from a big life event, from the future and from the past? When I finally saw what I was doing, I began to take witness of how I would constantly create my own unnecessary suffering; and that’s when I learned, very slowly, to try to find my happiness inwards. To not depend on a happiness that I cannot control. To find a way to become happiness itself.”
The key is to ACT and not to REACT. Once you learn the difference, you will have power over everything.